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Celebrating Anniversaries

When H and I were dating, we celebrated anniversaries of everything – one month from our first date was our first “lunaversary” and we sent each other flowers at work. We wrote each other love notes on the six-month anniversary of our engagement. We went out to dinner to celebrate 100 days since we met, or one month since we first said “I love you”, or our quarter-year wedding anniversary (H snuck in a floral centerpiece replicating my wedding bouqet for that one), or the first anniversary of our first e-mail correspondence. We take any excuse to remember and celebrate major and minor milestones in our relationship.

Two years ago tonight, in the middle of a blizzard, H took me out for dinner, and just before we ordered dessert, pulled out a pitch pipe and blew a note. Immediately, three men got up from the table behind us, stood with H next to our table, and proceeded to serenade me with a beautiful barbershop rendition of “Let Me Call You Sweetheart“.

And then H got down on one knee, presented me with a breathtakingly gorgeous diamond ring, and asked me to marry him. Unable to speak for a moment, and with my hand clapped over my mouth, I frantically nodded my head until I was finally able to squeak out the word “Yes!” (H had made me promise him, weeks earlier, that when he asked me to marry him, he would hear the word “yes” right away.)

He slipped the ring on my finger, and with tears of happiness running down my face and a huge grin on his, they serenaded me again with the song “Sweet and Lovely” (which contains the appropriate lyrics, “Soon we’ll marry, you’ll be my blushing bride”). It was an absolutely magical moment.

I’m not generally a date-oriented person; I would never remember my friends’ birthdays without assistance from a carefully notated calendar (and Facebook), I forget when I started my last job and what year I bought my car and what month Flag Day is.

But I know that I wrote to H for the first time on August 27, I met him on September 15, we said “I love you” on October 11, he asked me to marry him on January 1, we got married on April 12, and our son was born on November 2. Those are dates that I will always celebrate, every single year, for the rest of my life.

And every time one of those dates rolls around again, I will remember how our love has grown over the years, and be thankful once again for this amazing man who loves me, and whom I love.

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Choosing an Engagement Ring Bearer

Among many highlights of a wedding are the adorable children that walk down the isle. The ring bearer and flower girl add a special touch to the wedding party because they are so precious. You are sure to hear guests vocalize this as they see the children dressed up for the occasion. The ring bearer in his tuxedo looks like a mini groomsman. A ring bearer is traditionally no older then eight or nine years old. Having a diamond ring bearer in the wedding is a nice way to incorporate a special child or children into the wedding day.

Although a small child, the ring bearer has some responsibilities. Make sure you decide upon a precious little boy that you trust to do all that is asked. He usually is dressed in wedding gear such as a tuxedo just his size or a suit. A suit is a great choice because then it can be worn again at another time. Parents won’t feel like they are wasting money on a one time event.

How adorable little boys look dressed in a formal manner. He should carry a pillow with some fake wedding rings attached which have a symbolic meaning. Of course, if you really are confident that the ring bearer can handle the task, he can carry the real rings. But most of the time the rings attached to the satin pillow are replicas because that’s a lot to ask of a little boy.


The ring bearer should proceed down the isle after the flower girl or with the flower girl. Perhaps they will both feel comfortable with the buddy system of walking down the isle hand in hand.

Who should you have as the ring bearer? A bride and groom usually choose someone in their family such as a nephew, son, godchild or one of your cousin’s children. Of course, you may not have a young boy within the family that you can have to carry the pillow with the wedding rings.

Then choose an alternate ring bearer such as a girl ring bearer. This isn’t traditional but she can also be just as cute. Remember it’s your wedding and tradition and etiquette don’t always have to be followed.

Whoever you decide to fill these shoes, make sure the parents know all the responsibilities as well. The parents will be proud that you asked their child to have a special role in the wedding day. Once they understand the tasks at hand, they can make sure the ring bearer carries them out. Regardless of who you choose to be the mini groom, he’s sure to add a special touch with his charm.